Sometimes the most devilish thing that can hurt you the most can be good in a since. I mean, some people can’t wait to see you fail, or get to the lowest point in your life. The funny thing is they don’t realize that they’re doing you a favor in the reality of it.

Like a moth to a flame you just can’t stay away, you just can’t seem to leave what’s been holding you back. Everyone comes with some type of baggage, but it’s the baggage that keeps reappearing that’s the issue. Why is it that we keep going back to the things or people that seem to hurt us, physically, mentally, and emotionally? Why do we fiend for the things we know are a hazard to our health? Now that’s something that we’ve all come encounter with, I believe that we justify the things we do just to make ourselves feel better about what we’re doing.

Whether you believe that person actually loves you, when they’re just using you by any means. Or you can’t turn away from the drugs believing that you can quit at any time. The pain, stress and insecurities that consume us are actually what are driving us believe it or not. The answer is that we don’t want to feel alone, or abandoned so we subsidize our feelings by continuing to stay in that predicament.

Let me break this down to you, if someone close to you knows that you have a drug problem and they continue to feed your habit by buying drugs or giving you money for it, they want to see you fail. If someone you’re in a relationship with continues to cheat on you and can care less how many times you catch them, they want to see you at your lowest. The thing about this is we can’t continue to blame them for hurting us, because it’s our choice to believe them and continue to go back to what’s hurting us. They intentionally know what they’re doing to us but they’re so selfish they don’t care. Take this opportunity to cut off all of your bad habits; to release yourself and break away from all the hurt, pain and suffering. They will realize what they did in time, meanwhile you get yourself together.

Things that go on in our everyday lives are what inspire me to write. I hope my messaged gave a little encouragement and can help you move on from what’s holding you back from becoming a better you. Don’t be blind to things that appear right in front of you.

Tramekia Charleston, Ujima Magazine Freelance Writer